Friday, October 07, 2005

The harm we do without intention

"Half of the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don't mean to do harm. But the harm does not interest them."
- TS Eliot, American-born British critic and poet (1888-1965)

The harm does not interest them. That means that either they are incapable of understanding the concept that what they do harms others and this is bad, or that the concept is an important part of the teaching by parents to young children, a part these people missed.

One of the worst "sins by default" that parents can make is to assume that their children get life lessons somewhere along the way, they they do not have to be taught because they are "common sense" that everyone knows.

Nothing is common sense to someone who has not been taught. Common sense itself must be taught or it is not acquired.

A child is born knowing nothing but how to suck and what the smell of its mother is like. Everything after that must be taught. If anything is not taught purposefully and thoughtfully, it may be a lesson that is never learned. Or it may be a lesson that is learn wrongly because it was learned from someone who had their own best interests in mind and not that of the child-learner.

A drug dealer would be one such person.

Leave nothing to chance when raising a child. Teach everything.

Bill Allin
'Turning It Around: Causes and Cures for Today's Epidemic Social Problems,' striving to help all parents understand that common sense is only common when it is taught to every child.
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