Wednesday, September 21, 2005

Can wrong ever be right? Maybe

"Every vice was once a virtue, and may become respectable again, just as hatred becomes respectable in time of war."
- Will Durant

At first blush, this is a tough one to accept. However, consider the circumstances of war, for example, where the common human principle of not killing each other is not only cast aside but is encouraged.

A father with no income and hungry children at home may consider stealing to provide food.

Two people who promise to love each other, honour and cherish each other when they wed, and who fundamentally disagree with divorce may seek this form of escape when the relationship becomes more than they can bear.

A Turning it Around system in place would drastically reduce the incidence of such events. By teaching children in their first few years of life, rather than many years later, we establish within them principles that are so entrenched they are inviolable in later years. By teaching older children what they can do when they encounter the kinds of downturns of life that we all experience (giving them coping skills and people they can turn to when they need help), such tragic events can be avoided in most cases.

How many people really know what is involved with marriage, including how their relationship will change, what their respective responsibilities will be, how to manage disagreements and how to engage their partner in events that encourage mutual understanding and respect, at they time they say their vows? Most simply believe that love will see them through.

Love is great, but you can't eat it and it doesn't substitute for coping skills and knowledge when times get rough.

Teach the children before they need it and adults will have fewer unmanageable problems.

Bill Allin
'Turning It Around: Causes and Cures for Today's Epidemic Social Problems,' striving to give children the knowledge and skills they need to cope with the exigencies of life as adults.
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