Monday, December 26, 2005

Act the way you want people to treat you

"You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you."
- Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

It's hard for most of us to understand, but people treat us the way we teach them to treat us.

Most of us think that people treat us as they want to, as if they treat everyone alike. Maybe they treat some different from others because...well...who knows? This is not true.

What is more true is that we act towards others as a reaction to the way they have treated us in the past. That is, if we think that someone treats us as a servant, then we will act accordingly.

Interpersonal relationships are complex. As a result we think that they are unmanageable. They aren't. They can be quite simple.

Think about how you want someone else to treat you, then act in the way that would be appropriate for such a person. Within a short period of time, that person will begin to treat you the way you want. But you must continue to act in a way appropriate for the way you want to be treated.

You are in control, if that is what you want. If that is not what you want, then you will be subject to what you believe is the will and whim of others. It's not, but that is the way you will act.

You are only in control if you take control of yourself. Act the way you want to be treated.

Bill Allin
'Turning It Around: Causes and Cures for Today's Epidemic Social Problems,' striving to help each person take control of their own life.
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