Friday, February 10, 2006

Use someone else's anger to your own advantage

"Never forget what a man says to you when he is angry."
- Henry Ward Beecher

What someone says to you when they are angry is an honest expression of deeply felt emotions. These are always bad. That is, they are negative.

To never forget such matters means that they may be used as ways to improve yourself, not that they should be taken as unshakable daggers to your heart.

When angry, someone who cares about you will tell you things they truly believe you should change in order for people to like you better and accept you more. Use them as guides.

Do not transform these ploughshares into weapons to use against someone who has spoken from the heart.

These people usually care about you more than any others, even if it seems they do not. Even an enemy cares about you much more than most casual acquaintances.

Bill Allin
'Turning It Around: Causes and Cures for Today's Epidemic Social Problems,' striving to bring rainbows out of a cloudy day.
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