Friday, October 27, 2006

The best way to ease your troubled life

It is a glorious thing to be indifferent to suffering, but only to one's own suffering.
- Robert Lynd, writer (1879-1949)

Aye, there's the rub.

How can I help others with their suffering if I can't help myself?

By helping others.

Everybody has problems. Most people have problems we never know about because they don't make them public. But they have them all right.

Everyone knows one or more people who help others, so much so that they can be said to be selfless. Sometimes they are considered to be community heroes.

Have you every spoken to one of these people? Without exception, they are concerned about how they can help others and rarely mention anything about their own problems. Because their own problems are not important to them.

They don't suffer with their own problems because they know they are helping others with their more severe problems.

Think that's hard? Try it. It's not.

Nothing lightens your life load more than helping others who need it.

There's one more thing, something you may consider questionable. Three things, actually. First, these people feel better about themselves than they did before beginning to help others. Second, they seem to be able to manage their own problems much easier. Third, some mysterious form of "good luck" seems to befall them, such that good things happen to them when they need it most.

I'm not saying that God helps them. I don't really believe that.

I think it's the Tooth Fairy.

Bill Allin
'Turning It Around: Causes and Cures for Today's Epidemic Social Problems,' striving to help you lessen the hurt of your problems by focussing your attention on helping others.
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